a.k.a. The Husband Sweater. A.K.A. the sweater he's told me I owe him for the last four years, since he gave me The Ring.
Four years. Seriously? WOW. That flew by. Those who know us can look back and shake their heads with us at how crazy we were, really. In the space of three weeks, we got engaged, married, and pregnant. There was also a job loss in there, the day before our wedding, and a birthday two days after the wedding. For the record, we did NOT get married because we got pregnant...we got pregnant two days AFTER the wedding. Legitimate, folks! Not planned, but totally legit'. BTW, interesting bit of trivia...the most common birthday in the USA is October 5th. Coincides with mid-January conception. Little sister was born on October 6th. So...I guess if you're wondering why we would go and do a crazy thing like get pregnant two days after a wedding, you can blame it on the weather.
Anyway, that first year was kind of nuts. Hyperemesis hit me at 5 1/2 weeks. I literally have ultrasound pics of Little Sister at 5.5 weeks because I was sick enough to warrant that kind of stuff at the ER. I puked and puked and puked around the clock. The only time I wasn't puking or gearing up to puke, trying not to puke, or thinking about puking was while I slept. Within two minutes of being on my feet in the morning, I was worshipping at the porcelain altar. That's the way it was with my first pregnancy, too, except that the nausea/vomiting let up completely at about 13 weeks. Not so the second time around. I was on zofran (an amazing and amazingly expensive antiemetic to which Little Sis probably owes her very existence) for the first 19 weeks and continued puking intermittently until I delivered at 39.5 weeks. I puked my way to work in the morning...puked in the car, puked in the parking lot, puked in the biohazard bin when I got to work. Puked in the bathroom. I pretty much puked my way through 9/12 of my first year of marriage. It was kind of nuts.
There was other stress too. Job stress. Job loss stress. Immigration stress. Stress from unsupportive third parties. Working while puking stress. Working with sick babies while pregnant stress. Unreassuring ultrasound stress. Perinatologist with zero bedside manner stress. Having to hide the possibility that our baby would not be born healthy from those who we knew wouldn't be supportive stress. Going on bedrest stress. Difficult (oh, what a euphemism!) delivery stress. Baby in NICU for a week stress. Baby as pediatric grand rounds case of the week because they couldn't figure out why she wasn't satting well stress. Baby going home, only to be readmitted at 3 weeks' age for a freak toenail infection stress.
Somehow we made it. I think the unbelievably wonderful little baby that ultimately came home healthy had a lot to do with that. I can't imagine the life we would be leading now without her, although I'm sure there would have been other adventures worth sharing and certainly a smoother start. I think we probably deserve a lot of the credit ourselves, too. We were strong enough as individuals to suck it up and deal and recognize when one of us needed the other and when we needed space. What didn't kill us really did make us stronger. Every year, stronger than the last.
We had originally planned to have a "real" wedding in October of 2008. We had a baby that month instead. I never wanted a big wedding anyway. The quickie at the Historical Society with the retired judge and three witnesses was just fine with me. As time passed, though, I started thinking it might be nice to have a 5 year anniversary party. In my book, that's a heck of a lot more worth celebrating than your first day of marriage. People in this country routinely blow upwards of 20K on the first day of their marriage, and 50% of those marriages don't last. Nah, better to wait and spend a little money and party and celebrate having gotten through those first tenuous years, survived pregnancy and parenting together, grown together...
For years, that "5-years' party" seemed ages away. Now it's almost here. Now THAT's kind of nuts. We will have that party, but we'll wait and do it in the summer, when family is in town and the weather is better. Because, let's face it...mid-January may lend itself well to conception, but not so well to partying.
So, about that sweater...it was appropriately long and grueling in the making. It was definitely one of those "what doesn't kill you..." projects. Come to think of it, that's what I titled my post last time I knit a big sweater with this yarn. Hmmmm....

I could probably write a bit more about this sweater than I will. Suffice it to say the pattern is masterfully constructed, the yarn was...affordable (you can read more about it in that earlier post- it's Berroco Remix), and I managed to hide over a month's worth of knitting from my husband. But most of all...
IT FITS.

IT TOTALLY FITS.
HALLELUJAH!!!!
...which is a good thing, because it may be another four years before I can bring myself to knit another man-sized sweater in worsted weight yarn ;)
Here's to the next four years, and beyond, with my wonderful husband. Hopefully he'll forgive me for posting not-the-most-flattering pic from Christmas. I had to prove it fits, and he also happens to be wearing the shirt he married me in. How very fitting. :)

Happy 4th Anniversary, my husband!